Four Things To Remember About Summer

I had this post sitting in the UD archive for the last two summers. #DoBetterOlamide Had to brush the dust off this one. It's summer and a lot is taking place - the good, the bad and the ugly.

Here is a post to Help keep your focus in this crazy heat.

More Heat Doesn't Mean Lesser Clothing

Unless you live in Maryland, your summer actually feels like...summer! And in many cases, some days, the heat is unbearable. Instead of staying hydrated with water, we like to dress with fewer articles of clothing. As ambassadors of Christ, we have to remember we can’t follow the ways of the world. When getting dressed, ask yourself the hard questions: Does this glorify God? Am I being a stumbling block? Am I helping the Gospel or hindering it?

Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.
— Romans 13:14

2. Salvation Takes No Vacation

Besides Winter, most of us travel during the Summer. We plan trips to places where we can get away and no one knows anything about us. Don’t let the world fool you. What happens in Vegas doesn't stay in Vegas and when in Rome, don’t even do as the Romans. No matter where you are on Earth, you should always represent Christ. You are saved, sanctified and set apart. So when you go through TSA, remember to keep on your helmet of salvation.

But he who endures to the end shall be saved.
— Matthew 24:13 NKJV

3. Don’t Forsake The Fellowship Of The Brethren

With school being out for summer, we can kiss goodbye that morning class, the annoying roommates and the amazing mystery meal served in the cafe. For some odd reason, we tend to think that applies to the weekly bible studies we’ve attended. Even though school is out, the community is still important. Whether you have a job, internship or participating in your own NBA 2k17 tournament, make room for staying connected to the body.

And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.
— Hebrew 10:24-25

4. Stay Faithful To the Word

We understand there are moves and functions lined up. We get it. You got places to go and people to see. But we were saved to love God, not to forsake our fellowship with Him. So keep being consistent in prayer and reading of the word. Don’t let the physical season delay you from seeking God about your spiritual season. See what He has in store for you! If anything, being out of school and having fewer responsibilities should be an opportunity to draw closer to God, not further. You (for the most part) get to set your schedule and have your own routine. No need to rise early in the morning, but now you have all the time in the world to build intimacy with God before life gets crazy again.

With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! I have stored up your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.
— Psalm 119:10-11
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.
— 2 Timothy 3:16-17


Hope this helps set the tone for your summer. Please enjoy the remaining of your summer because you know I will :)

When You Don't Get The Dream Guy

This past Memorial Day was a memorable one. I spent that morning having confession with a dear sister. I shared a secret with her: I had a crush on someone. Over the last few months, God has been healing me and making me whole, to the point that my feelings for the guy were a thing of the past. And that's where it just needed to stay. I later went home and decluttered my room. I went on a rage looking for anything that could tie me to this guy. It was time to restore the ancient landmarks and remove any false idol that tried to raise itself as a god in my heart.

At this point in the game, you can tell I never got the dream guy. And to be honest, I am quite happy that God never answered that prayer. *flips hair* He be knowing.

Here's what to know when you don't get your dream guy

1. Remember God has someone you can't even imagine

I am really big on learning from other's past season and drawing strength from that. We overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the words of our testimony. I have many friends who are courting, engaged or married, so I love hearing about their love story. Believe it or not, the road to bae wasn't easy or smooth. Many times there was someone else who had their attention initially and that person began to take over their hearts. In all situations, that person wasn't God's will for them and I've learned that my friends had to consecrate their hearts to the Lord so that He can be their main focus.

And when they did, God brought someone that was meant for them. He reveals and announces the real partner. I can tell you my friends were captivated by some amazing people, but God always has a way of showing us out. Because the partners that God presented were someone I couldn't even fathom for my friends.

When you don't get the dream guy, remember that God will always outdo and will embarrass you with His blessings.

2. He is a dream. We need something that's a reality

I once saw a quote that said "don't settle for the guy that makes your heart race. Be with the guy that makes you feel calm." I never got the quote. Why can't bae give me butterflies and make my heart race? Isn't that what love does to people? I soon learned that I was anxious for love. Love is patient and I shouldn't be anxious about anything, especially when it is mine.

I realized that because I was anxious by the presence of another human, I was developing a deep yearning for them. Sounds familiar? Yeah, sounds like lust. Not lust in the sexual form, but lust nonetheless. Desiring a deep yearning for another person was awaking love before it's time, therefore not allowing it its God-given right to be beautiful in its time.

3. He's the reason for the season

God has already declared the beginning from the end. Literally. Before the foundations were laid, He declared it. So it's safe to say that He is the one who has control of the direction of your life, including why you didn't get the dream guy and enjoying your amazing single season.

Who is he who speaks and it comes to pass, When the Lord has not commanded it?
— Lamentations 3:37 NKJV

God is in control of your season and your life. If you didn't get the dream guy, I can confidently say, "shawty wasn't for you." I also have faith and believe what and who is yours will come to pass.

This is the part where I write some encouraging words as I conclude. All I can say is enjoy the now. And I say this with all sincerity because this season can't and shall not be repeated. Invest in yourself. You are your biggest concern right now. I wish I realized this years ago. Here is to our amazing youth and future stories we can share with our daughters.