Waiting Together

🎶 Waiting here for you... 🎶

I know. I get it. Another article about waiting. Been there, still there. I understand, yet you can never be over encouraged in the Word. And plus what you got to lose? Patience? Time? Ha ha.

Like any other day, I was deeply immersed in a debate with my friends. On what other topic, but relationships. This day, we were discussing ‘should a woman wait for the man to pursue her or should she initiate the first move?’ It wasn’t the topic that intrigued me, but it was who on the what side that did. I was perplexed that my brother in Christ actually supported a woman making the first move. Before I could bust out the scriptures to slap him with, he said “But I look at this as a double standard-- guy likes the girl, [he] better get off his butt and pursue her, let her know he likes her. Girl likes a guy, sits pretty or petty... and hopes something happens.That’s sort’ve how it is.”

How, sway!?

We are all waiting...TOGETHER.

She’s waiting. He’s waiting. And most importantly, God is waiting.

Wayment. Isn't waiting...an one party thing?


God has you beat in the waiting game. You can’t even compare your waiting time to His. Imagine you know the beginning and the end To EVERYTHING, because you are all knowing.

Got it? Good.

Now, imagine that you have the name of a person written in your hands. You’ve created a unique plan for them and created a distinct purpose, that’s engraved in detail in your palm.

The only problem is...the person hasn’t been born yet. You could easily roll some dirt together and blow them to life, but if you did that again, they wouldn’t be born of Man; in other words, they wouldn’t have a sin nature. Great.

So finally they’ve been born. Yay. We are making progress. Time for your plan to manifest. But we face another minor hurdle. We have to wait for them to come to Christ. Ughh. This isn't fun.

I could go on and on with this illustration. But you’ll have to realize this isn’t a story, but this is real life. God has been waiting and is still waiting for the plans and purpose in your life to be fulfilled. Whether it is you being born (and that included waiting for your parents to even meet), waiting for you to encounter and accept Christ, waiting for you to graduate, or even waiting for you to get married, God is waiting with you and for you.

Yet, God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.
— Ecclesiastes 3:11 NLT

In fact, the world is waiting as well.

For the earnest expectation of the creation eagerly waits for the revealing of the sons of God.
— Romans 8:19 NKJV

We all can agree that, when we don't understand or value an idea or concept, we most likely won’t agree with it. From the Black Lives Matter movement to Christians and secular music, many people are on different sides of the spectrum based on their own knowledge or revelation of the issue.

When it comes to Christian relationships, many people assume that it is only the ladies waiting, but as we can see that’s not true. Before a man can approach a woman, he must first seek her Father. You see, a sensible man would seek God for His peace and assurance about the potential union. He wouldn’t dive into it without waiting on the Father. Most times, God doesn’t give an immediate “yes.” Men wait too.

She waits. He waits. And God waits. He waits to see how we will act and behave in this time of “silence.” To see our hearts for what it is. And to see how our relationship with Him will transform. 

My soul waits for the Lord More than those who watch for the morning— Yes, more than those who watch for the morning.
— Psalm 130:6

We having been waiting our whole lives.

Waiting for the microwave to hit zero.

Waiting for the light to turn green.

Waiting for the latest Marvel movie to come out.

Waiting for Bethel Music to come tour Maryland/DC area.

There’s levels to this.

But in all aspects of our daily lives, we experience and practice waiting. And through it all, the lessons that come from waiting are often missed and/or failed.

As you wait on God for a significant other, regardless of your gender, continue to trust Him in the waiting and remember His intentions are good and pure towards you!

The LORD is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.
— Lamentations 3:25

17 Things To Embrace In 2017

Here are some tips to make your new year a little bit different from 2016.



1. Try new spots
When we love something so much, we tend to develop a routine around it and refuse to switch it up. Ditch Starbucks and chipotle this year, and explore new places you’ve never eaten at. Your taste buds will thank you.
2. Embrace each moment as a "yes" from God
In every disappointment and heartbreak, God is still good and sovereign. He is the paving a path for you. So instead of reflecting on the negative, flip the script and see the good in every situation.  
3. Learn a new skill
Spend less time creeping on other people’s social media, learning their lives, and more time engaging on your own. Pick a skill that you desire to grow in and find ways to learn how to do it. Whether its calligraphy, baking or even playing an instrument, learn and become a beast at it. Be a better version of you than you were in 2016.
4. Don't share every moment on Social Media
It is human nature (well it is if you are in Gen Y) to document a moment and automatically add it to social media. It is also human nature to not share everything on social media. While you are editing that picture or video, you are robbing yourself of fully enjoying the intimate moment and now allowing others to partake in it, at the expense of their own judgment and opinions.
5. Honor people more
The culture of honor should be as relevant in a community as the culture of love. As we do life with people, we should make them feel valued as members of the Body. Affirm and exhort each other, and don’t forsake the gathering of the brethren.
6. Invest in yourself spiritually
We spend a lot of money on perfecting and maintaining our outward looks, but how much do we invest in our spiritual lives? Read a book that would challenge you in your walk. Start a devotion that relates to the season you are in. Attend a conference that refreshes and enlightens you. Remember it’s your soul, not your body that makes it to heaven.

7. Study a book in the Bible
As in, study a book you wouldn’t normally read. So Zephaniah, Haggai, and Zechariah should get the same love you would show John, Acts, and Romans. #AllBooksMatter
8. Spend more time with your family
Major key. We are at that awkward stage in life where our family is starting to become a big priority for us. Imagine telling your rebellious teenager self that. Create time to be with family, where everyone is able to relax and enjoy the presence of each other. Because later down the line, we will start to create our own families.   
9. Visit another church
Not become a member at another church. Big difference. Be open to attending another church’s worship night or their night vigil. Fellowship with other members of the body. Experience their culture.
10. Include others in your moves
FOMO is the #1 causes of loneliness, depression, and anxieties in Gen Y. Okay, I’m lying, but it’s close on the list. Whenever you are headed out with your usual clique, invite someone that would be blessed by the fellowship.
11. Carry cash
Bank of America doesn’t own all the silver and gold. God does. I’m sure He wants us to be better stewards of our finances. Stop with the flick of the wrist, and use cash. Less tempting to spend.
12. Have something to save towards
Many people want to save, but they have nothing to save towards. Set a goal and that will motivate you to save effectively.
13. Actively work towards a goal
We set many goals for 2017, but how many have we made a plan to achieve? Do yourself a favor and add an action plan to take to help reach your goal.
14. Take a break from Social Media
Delete the app. Log out of it on Safari. And take slow deep breaths as you feel you hand begin to experience the “shakes.” It’s okay, you will live like the rest of the world.
15. Redecorate your room
Get new sheets. Add pictures to the wall. Get a bookshelf to hold your invisible books. Rearrange your furniture. Whatever you are in the mood for, do it to shake up the old vibe your room gave in 2016. A new look can help you think clearly and wake up your brain.
16. Find new ways to fellowship with others
I’m all for eating my friend’s parent’s food while watching the Flash, but not every time. I can do the same at home. This year, aim to kick it in different settings.

17. Serve in another ministry
If you are in the dance ministry, you should be faithful there. Don’t neglect what God has entrusted you with. However, reach out to another ministry you have an interest in and see if you can serve and assist there for a day where they may need more help. I’m sure they would appreciate it and you get to develop your ministry skills.