When You Don't Get The Dream Guy
This past Memorial Day was a memorable one. I spent that morning having confession with a dear sister. I shared a secret with her: I had a crush on someone. Over the last few months, God has been healing me and making me whole, to the point that my feelings for the guy were a thing of the past. And that's where it just needed to stay. I later went home and decluttered my room. I went on a rage looking for anything that could tie me to this guy. It was time to restore the ancient landmarks and remove any false idol that tried to raise itself as a god in my heart.
At this point in the game, you can tell I never got the dream guy. And to be honest, I am quite happy that God never answered that prayer. *flips hair* He be knowing.
Here's what to know when you don't get your dream guy
1. Remember God has someone you can't even imagine
I am really big on learning from other's past season and drawing strength from that. We overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the words of our testimony. I have many friends who are courting, engaged or married, so I love hearing about their love story. Believe it or not, the road to bae wasn't easy or smooth. Many times there was someone else who had their attention initially and that person began to take over their hearts. In all situations, that person wasn't God's will for them and I've learned that my friends had to consecrate their hearts to the Lord so that He can be their main focus.
And when they did, God brought someone that was meant for them. He reveals and announces the real partner. I can tell you my friends were captivated by some amazing people, but God always has a way of showing us out. Because the partners that God presented were someone I couldn't even fathom for my friends.
When you don't get the dream guy, remember that God will always outdo and will embarrass you with His blessings.
2. He is a dream. We need something that's a reality
I once saw a quote that said "don't settle for the guy that makes your heart race. Be with the guy that makes you feel calm." I never got the quote. Why can't bae give me butterflies and make my heart race? Isn't that what love does to people? I soon learned that I was anxious for love. Love is patient and I shouldn't be anxious about anything, especially when it is mine.
I realized that because I was anxious by the presence of another human, I was developing a deep yearning for them. Sounds familiar? Yeah, sounds like lust. Not lust in the sexual form, but lust nonetheless. Desiring a deep yearning for another person was awaking love before it's time, therefore not allowing it its God-given right to be beautiful in its time.
3. He's the reason for the season
God has already declared the beginning from the end. Literally. Before the foundations were laid, He declared it. So it's safe to say that He is the one who has control of the direction of your life, including why you didn't get the dream guy and enjoying your amazing single season.
God is in control of your season and your life. If you didn't get the dream guy, I can confidently say, "shawty wasn't for you." I also have faith and believe what and who is yours will come to pass.
This is the part where I write some encouraging words as I conclude. All I can say is enjoy the now. And I say this with all sincerity because this season can't and shall not be repeated. Invest in yourself. You are your biggest concern right now. I wish I realized this years ago. Here is to our amazing youth and future stories we can share with our daughters.